I don’t think that’s the right name for the bias I have in mind, but since googling isn’t showing me the one I’m looking for I’ll just call it the first person bias for the purposes of this post.
The problem is that we all live in our own heads and we interpret the information and everything in how it relates to us. Even when it doesn’t.
I’ve had a few posts now, some of them where I didn’t expect this and some where I did. For example, my post on personal libraries where I initially was like, shit, I think person X might think it’s about them so I reached out to them to tell them it wasn’t. Only to realize the next day that a few other people who would probably see it as me talking about them, and not you know, me talking about my own personal library.
While writing the post I was really so self involved that I didn’t really think about how others would think it’s about them. Like if I’m somehow spending my time sub-blogging(1)sub-tweeting about other folks. I’m too stuck in my own head for that.
Now there’s clearly a balance here, talking about stuff and not being aware of how others could perceive it is sub-optimal. And I think I agree that this should be something that “public” people should worry about. But it goes back to why I haven’t written in a while(2)you know apart from getting phone calls from the family asking if everything is okay and why kids have a finsta(3)fake instagram account so your parents can follow you on it(4)Note to any kids reading this, you need to have 2 finsta accounts, so you can have some plausible deniability by revealing the existence of the decoy finsta account
I wanted to end this post with a song, the one that is like “You’re so vain you think this song is about you” or something, but then, people would assume I’m calling them vain 😉
(Also, I couldn’t find the version of the song I knew… the original song is clearly not the one I thought it was)
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|2.||↑||you know apart from getting phone calls from the family asking if everything is okay|
|3.||↑||fake instagram account so your parents can follow you on it|
|4.||↑||Note to any kids reading this, you need to have 2 finsta accounts, so you can have some plausible deniability by revealing the existence of the decoy finsta account|